tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post5118459483717067235..comments2023-07-28T18:02:35.726+08:00Comments on Calculated Spontaneity: The Real Worldlouannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05522758277418450920noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-89636396071974081592007-09-24T08:16:00.000+08:002007-09-24T08:16:00.000+08:00Hope you feel better soon louann. On the bullying...Hope you feel better soon louann. On the bullying thing, my son is just like your older boy. I remember when I had put him in daycare (he was 2!) there was a little boy who picked on him all the time, would push him whenever he could. I only figured this out after he would cry whenever I would get him ready for school. It turned out this boy was a special needs child, who was acting out; but I kept a close eye on this, with the daycare supervisor and the teachers. It was quite sad, though, that my guy had to learn to "block" the hits coming his way - the teachers taught him that! He wasn't the only child being hit. It eventually resolved, but to this day he is not aggressive, or even assertive at all, and reluctant to "tell on" any of his peers. I even had to send a note in on the first day of school as a bunch of girls have been chasing him every recess. He hates it, broke down to me and his dad, so we wrote a note to his teacher. It resolved the next day. But he's bottled that up for over a year!!! So I also worry.<BR/>My girlie, she's pretty feisty and will likely look after herself. I'm sure she'll eventually protect her big brother on the schoolyard :)Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-51153245002337323092007-09-24T08:15:00.000+08:002007-09-24T08:15:00.000+08:00Hope you feel better soon louann. On the bullying...Hope you feel better soon louann. On the bullying thing, my son is just like your older boy. I remember when I had put him in daycare (he was 2!) there was a little boy who picked on him all the time, would push him whenever he could. I only figured this out after he would cry whenever I would get him ready for school. It turned out this boy was a special needs child, who was acting out; but I kept a close eye on this, with the daycare supervisor and the teachers. It was quite sad, though, that my guy had to learn to "block" the hits coming his way - the teachers taught him that! He wasn't the only child being hit. It eventually resolved, but to this day he is not aggressive, or even assertive at all, and reluctant to "tell on" any of his peers. I even had to send a note in on the first day of school as a bunch of girls have been chasing him every recess. He hates it, broke down to me and his dad, so we wrote a note to his teacher. It resolved the next day. But he's bottled that up for over a year!!! So I also worry.<BR/>My girlie, she's pretty feisty and will likely look after herself. I'm sure she'll eventually protect her big brother on the schoolyard :)Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-88107777415637518942007-09-24T05:02:00.000+08:002007-09-24T05:02:00.000+08:00oh, that is heartbreaking! to not be there to fix ...oh, that is heartbreaking! to not be there to fix it for him! that makes me angry FOR you.<BR/><BR/>but all you can do is teach him to be the better person, and know that he is going to grow up a decent man. bullies suck.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12205737789539320727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-59318867138571739172007-09-22T06:17:00.000+08:002007-09-22T06:17:00.000+08:00It has been rather surprising how aggressive some ...It has been rather surprising how aggressive some kids are at such a young age. <BR/><BR/>I don't think many of them have the intention to be mean, they are just physical in expressing themselves (due to wrestling at home, older siblings, etc?) and it results in hurting other children.<BR/><BR/>That being said, I too have to find ways to help my children defend themselves or remove themselves from the situation and to TELL AN ADULT. <BR/><BR/>My brother was like your son. Until 3rd grade. A boy made fun of his red lips and my bro punched him in the eye. It shocked all of us! <BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry you feel bad! Liquids, liquids! Have you tried hot tea and lemon with a little honey?Jennboreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-62845634021217269392007-09-21T22:28:00.000+08:002007-09-21T22:28:00.000+08:00some kids could really get violent and it's hard s...some kids could really get violent and it's hard sometimes to teach our kids to fight back especially if they are not used to violence.<BR/><BR/>but talking about it with the teachers will help a lot. it's good that your son talks to you about it. I hope this boy will stop hurting your kid.<BR/><BR/>And get well soon! I had my bout of virus too a week ago. God bless!Sophiagurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00840113069859034658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-48471080827481313682007-09-21T12:32:00.000+08:002007-09-21T12:32:00.000+08:00I am proud of you of how to teach your kids regard...I am proud of you of how to teach your kids regarding matters like that.....Never start....But i guess your son was very hurt and<BR/>he need to defend himself of what he's classmate did...I agree with you about case like that.My son "carl" did the same things when hes classmate punch him at hes FACE,oh my!I couldn't imagine that way.But talk right away....<BR/><BR/>Get well soon and take care always louann....mylovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13481241455903645171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-84017240049705526122007-09-21T09:29:00.000+08:002007-09-21T09:29:00.000+08:00Talk, talk talk. You're doing the right thing. T...Talk, talk talk. You're doing the right thing. There is a great picture book called King of the Playground that my kids loved -- about how to deal with bullies. They still love that book. Try to find it and read that to them and keep talking. I let my kids know I'm right behind them -- sometimes I call the Mom even. <BR/><BR/>Louann, are you sipping apple cider vinegar? Just a teaspoon in a glass of water about 3 times a day should clear up the throat in about a day and a half. And rest.SusieJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12631535541744210983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593290192293739137.post-66822620837814933192007-09-20T21:48:00.000+08:002007-09-20T21:48:00.000+08:00I've never figure out why some kids are very mean....I've never figure out why some kids are very mean. I think it's what they see around them, and they act it out. They probably do not mean to be bad, but it's what they see, so it's normal.<BR/><BR/>I say the same things to my children. Don't be the first to hurt anyone, but don't let anyone hurt them. Sometimes, you have to fight back. Still, your son sounds so much like my son.<BR/><BR/>I hope you get well soon.Shoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10268573561821187971noreply@blogger.com