In the office, there are basically 2 groups. One group is composed of 4 young girls- 1 is married with a kid and another has a kid but is not married, the other 2 are single. 2 of them were my schoolmates / friends in highschool. The other group is composed of a mix of both male and female- older, married and with kids. My boss belongs to the latter.
It isn't as if the office is divided as in divided, we all have lunch together, we are united in a way. Except for when it comes to personal interests.
The first group can go on all day talking about boys, make up, fashion and themselves. I never heard those with kids talk about their kids, school concern of their kids, what they will cook for dinner-- nothing about the home.
As much as I would want to associate myself closely to the latter group, I still am not sure if they are willing or ready to accept me. Plus the fact that my boss is there still makes me think and feel that I should not be too assuming at this point since I am only 2 months old in the company.
It is difficult having to listen to stories I cannot relate to and do not really want to relate to, day in and day out. When I start to talk about my kids, my husband or the home, they just look at me, give me a very polite smile (with the very popular head tilt) and then they go about talking about boys, make up, fashion and themselves.
I am not saying they are bad people. Or that there is something the matter with them, I respect them it's just that their interests do not interest me. Maybe that's the best way to put it. I can really feel the disconnect. Sometimes I try, but it is difficult.
I hope I will be able to eventually connect with people I know I will truly understand and who will understand me as well.