We had lunch over at my in-laws today. My MIL was there, 2 of my husbands aunts, 2 of his uncles and a few of my kids' cousins. The grandmother of my husband was there too- the great grandmother of my kids. She is a very sweet lady who loves her family and who gets so excited about seeing all of her grand and great grand kids. She is starting to become more and more forgetful though. Like every time we pay a visit to their family home - which isn't very often - she can never remember who we are! Going back, I said she is a very sweet lady who enjoys seeing her family together.
But each time we go visit her, she always has these handful of candies and sweets for my kids! And worse, she likes seeing them gobble 'em up down even before eating their meals! Sorry. I love it that she loves my kids and I love seeing her so excited around them. But over flowing candies and chocolates? Eat them all up at once? No thanks please! She can't hear that well anymore as well so polite as I want to be, I sometimes have to speak a bit louder just so that she can hear me saying, "Please for crying out loud stop with the sweets! Tonsillitis galore!" "Please lola, not to much candies for the kids. We don't really allow them that much sweets in a month!" Oh gosh. So I glare stare at my husband waiting for him to say or do something to save my poor kids' appetite and tonsils! We tried to hide the can full of sweets from my grandmother - in - law and when she couldn't find it, she went to her room and got more unopened packs of candies!
Now that it's over, I find myself laughing at how silly we were a while ago. But when it was happening, I was irritated / annoyed / panicky especially since the littlest one could not be talked out of not shoving down eating all those candies. Thank God he forgot about the other sweets his great grandma stashed inside his pocket. It's really difficult to be straightforward with other people about the rules you impose on your kids since Pinoy culture gives very big importance to respect for elders PLUS, we have the tendency to agree just so that. Ugghh.
I hope the 2 glasses of water I made the little gulp down will keep the tonsillitis away!
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Oooops... didn't know my daughter was signed in. Anyway, let the grannies spoil them while we whisper ... not too much for the sake of your tonsils.
Oh yes..I know all about the respect we have to give our elders in the Filipino culture. Even when we want to say something, we have to bite our tongues! So hard to do!
Al, we can only do so much! Haha. Grannies reign!
Alicia, you are so right. Sometimes I wonder if it's even good. I dunno.
you are right. it is hard to make them stop out of respect and we know that that is their way of saying,,.. let me do this and let them remember me with a smile.
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