Friday, May 23, 2008

Still No Cure, It Chooses No One

As soon as I got to the office this morning, my officemate who I have become close with over the few months I have been there, called me to the pantry because she wanted to tell me something. Well apparently, she got a call from her family last night to inform her that they found a tumor in her Dad's lungs. My heart dropped. And I couldn't really say anything for a good 10 minutes. I didn't know what to say. A big part of me just didn't want to say anything at all. What should you say?

She started asking about my Mom's case - hr battle with lung cancer. I wanted to share so much but at the same time, I didn't want to. My officemate said she will be visiting her dad after work and since her hometown is about 3 hours away from our city, she will be seeing her dad for the 1st time again in months. I told her to be ready for how her dad may look like since her mom said he already looked different.

I was thankful that my morning was pretty hectic preventing me from finding time to sit down and talk with her. I used that time to reflect and collect my thought. Damn hard.

We had lunch together. She needed someone to listen, so I did. It was very painful. I felt for her and remembered the ordeal my Dad and Mom went through and how painful it was for all their loved ones see them suffer and die.

Before we left the office, I told her to take care. I said it would be good to be as logical and practical as possible but she should cry it out if she felt so.

Trying times like these can make us or break us. Difficult as it can be, it is all up to us. I pray her father beats this. The big C.


C said...

Oh, Louann. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's father. It really is hard for the cancer patient, but also for all the loved ones who go through everything with the patient.

I've never been a good person to deal with these things. My aunt died of ovarian cancer five years ago and that was the hardest thing I ever had to witness. We were in the hospital room with her when she passed.

BUT, some people DO get through this in the end. A friend of mine discovered he had cancer when he turned 30. He had his operation, underwent treatment and he is fine now. In fact he is better than before!

I pray for your friend's father and I pray that his family has the strength to get through this with him. Thinking of you too! Sending some warm Canadian hugs your way! ;) XOXO

Heart of Rachel said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to everyone who has to go through cancer.

PinksandBluesGirls said...

I am so very sorry and sad for your friend's father, and her whole family. I am sorry and sad for you, too, as this must be so difficult. My cousin died 4 years ago after a valiant fight with ovarian cancer. She was a young mom and a brilliant woman. Her mom and sister and our entire family now encourage women to get tested for breast and ovarian cancer. Sometimes a loved one's legacy is for us to help in any way we can. You are a remarkable person to have the sympathy you do...

Sharon - Pinks & Blues